Anatomy of a Marriage

 

Before you start feeling too comfortable in your marriage, you ought to give it the once over...  or maybe the twice over...  actually, you better start paying attention to what is taking place before it is too late...

Whether you want to admit it or not, IN EVERY MARRIAGE, one spouse is always more dominant...  and I don't mean that in a sexual way but in a controlling way...

In other words, one spouse needs the other spouse more than the other spouse needs the one spouse.

It does not matter who this controlling person is as it can be either MALE or FEMALE...  it just depends on their personality.

If you are in a marriage where only the male is working as was the case with my parents...  then that male is usually the controlling one...  consequently, the wife needs the husband more than the husband needs the wife.

If both the male and the female are working, then the female is usually the controlling one, especially if she has fashion model beauty.  Another area that you should look at if the wife has incredible beauty is...  does she take sexual intercourse for granted...  in that does she try to screw your eyeballs out, or just lay there without doing much of anything...

I can just about guarantee that the female is dominant and controlling if she has to get on top of the male in order to orgasm...  that claim or assertion is simply not true, and she gets on top to show who is boss.  However, this is not true, if the male asks her to get on top.

A sure sign of dominance happens when the female says:  IF MOMMA AINT HAPPY THEN NOBODY IS HAPPY...

It is simply impossible for there to be two BOSSES in a marriage...  only one is boss...  and, once you have determined that...  then you can assume that the BOSS needs you less than you need the BOSS...  the BOSS may not articulate that sentiment, but that sentiment is inside their head and part of their personality and will surface if their position comes under scrutiny or if they feel threatened.

Make sure that everything that you own is JOINT PROPERTY regardless of whose name appears on the title or the legal documents.  JOINT PROPERTY is owned 50/50 in the eyes of the law.

In the past, this dominant person has been the MALE but with so many females entering the workforce and receiving a college education, and not having children, they are beginning to show their dominant sides, and believe me, they can get down in the gutter and be really dirty to protect their identities and power.

Especially dangerous are females who have been sexually abused and no longer trust any male, even the one they eventually marry.   Most of these women will not share their experiences with their spouses...