Showing posts with label Divorce. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Divorce. Show all posts

Sunday, March 13

Women Initiate Divorce


Divorce is common. For instance, in 2019, one million American women divorced.

Though divorce is financially costly, particularly for women, the percentage of divorces initiated by women is higher than men-initiated divorces. Furthermore, a surprisingly large number of women report post-divorce life satisfaction. For an explanation of this paradox and reasons why women divorce, we turn to a recent paper by Parker and collaborators, published in the February 2022 issue of Current Opinion in Psychology.

The authors argue, using the evolutionary theory, that various mismatches between the sexes increase the likelihood of divorce. These mismatches are detailed below. (Note, most of what follows applies to divorces initiated by women in heterosexual relationships in Western countries.)

Good genes, deep pockets, and other mismatches in mate preference

When it comes to mate selection, women value characteristics such as masculinity, facial symmetry, attractiveness, and social dominance. Quite a few of these characteristics signal good genes. For example, they correlate with health and physical strength, which are attributes that increase survival and reproductive success.

Why might a desire for genetically superior men result in mate preference mismatch? Because men with good genes are usually more interested in short-term relationships and do not make the best long-term partners (e.g., are less resourceful). So, women, especially those able to financially support themselves, may not feel motivated to stay in a relationship with such men.

Another mismatch concerns financial resources: Not only do women desire physically healthy and attractive romantic partners, but they also often desire resourceful mates (i.e. rich and successful men).

Mating preferences concerning money and resources might have an evolutionary explanation—e.g., women’s need to rely on men capable of providing for them during pregnancy and breastfeeding, which are periods of high energy expenditure and low mobility.

Though these mating preferences have not changed, society has changed drastically. Fewer women need to depend on men; indeed, an increasing number of women outearn their husbands.  READ MORE...

Tuesday, May 18

50% Divorce Rate In USA

For the last 10 years or more, the divorce rate in the United States has maintained a constant level of 50% and this includes the Southern Bible Belt, which some of us might find curiously interesting.

So...  what's causing all this divorce?

Well...  I could say it's the females in the workplace and then I would be equally justified in saying it's the males in the workplace.  And...  the sad truth of it all is that when males and females start working together there is a high degree of probability that they will start screwing each other figuratively, literally, and sexually.

It is human nature.

The two wealthiest males in the USA have either gotten a divorce or their divorce is pending and it is because these males screwed around with other females with whom they came into contact while at work.

BEZOS lost half his fortune in the divorce but has since gotten it all back...  nothing more than a down turn on Wall Street to him...  and now, Gates is on the chopping block because he could not keep his manhood in his pants.

OF course, in both cases, the female had to have agreed with everything or nothing would have happened...  although, I am sure sexual assault could have taken place...  but, when one is screwing a billionaire one does not concern one's self with sexual assault...  perhaps, a little blackmail might have been in order.

Why get married, if 50% of them end in divorce?

First, marriage allows sexual intercourse
Second, the female might be pregnant
Third, marriage provides financial security
Fourth, two people might believe they are in love
Fifth, it has been arranged by the parents
Sixth, it gets those involved out from under their parents control
Seventh, one's biological clock is ticking
Eighth, marriage looks better than single in the business world
Ninth, there are tax breaks for married couples
Tenth, insurance costs are less when married


Wednesday, June 3

When Does One Act or Not Act?

What possesses two people to marry?

  • sex
  • love
  • money
  • security
  • friendship
  • commonalities
  • companionship
And...  when do those two people decide that their marriage is no long viable and it is time to divorce and go their separate ways?

Oftentimes, no action is taken by either spouse when one or both realize that their marriage is DEAD and whatever was there that brought them together is no longer present and continuing to remain in the marriage is hypocritical.

Why does this happen?
  • money
  • security
  • promises
  • society
  • children
  • convenience
  • lesser of two evils
I remember growing up in a household where once I became a TEENAGER, I realized that there was NO LOVE present and/or exhibited between either of my parents...  and yet, I expected them to remain together...  because I just assumed that this is what married people do.