Exploring Marriage

Is marriage dying?


The transformation of marriage from a form of economic dependency for women to an equal partnership has let to demographic shifts. Richard Reeves, author of "Of Boys and Men," explains how economic and educational factors have potentially destabilized partnerships and changed patterns of “marriageability” for middle- and lower-class men. Watch here.


The most famous divorce of all time

When English King Henry VIII wanted to divorce his first wife, Catherine of Aragon, in the 1500s, Catholicism was the national religion. Even though Catherine didn't produce a male heir, religious leaders refused to grant his wish. In response, King Henry turned his country upside down for the chance to marry the second of his six wives. Read more here.



The diverse history of marriage

Marriage was around in one form or another long before written history. From bonds between two people to large polyamorous gatherings of spouses, the rich history of marriage practices demonstrates that partnerships have been, and will likely continue to be, incredibly diverse. This illustrated video shows the diversity of marriage practices. Watch it here.



The historical cycles of marriage and birth rates

Falling marriage and birth rates worldwide prompt worries over how they might affect tax bases, retirement funds, and social standing. But this isn’t the first time marriage and reproduction have fallen out of favor. Some countries have resorted to drastic measures to restore the tarnished state of these hallowed institutions. Read how here.


What not to do in your marriage

Yes, divorce rates in the US are high. But that doesn’t mean your marriage is doomed. The Gottmans, both psychologists and longtime relationship counselors, are renowned for their approach to fostering healthy relationships. This video outlines negative relational attitudes correlated with relationship failure and how to avoid them. Watch it here.

Becoming A Dominant Wife

Traditional spousal roles include a dominant husband and a submissive wife. These roles have been changing so that men and women have a more egalitarian relationship. However, some couples enjoy a relationship in which the woman is more dominant than the husband. In order for this to work, both parties need to agree it's what they want. The dominant wife differs from a dominatrix as the role is expanded to include all areas of the relationship, not just the sexual aspects.

Talk to your husband about the role you want to take as a dominant wife. Some men suggest this role because they find it more alluring or comfortable; others are open to it as a way to add some spice to the marriage or on a part-time basis. Find out what you both want from the relationship and what the comfort zones are as far as dominance.

Make a list of the areas you want to dominate. This can include things like household chores, sexual relations or controlling how free time is spent. Approach your husband with the list to see if these areas are agreeable to him.

Take the initiative in these areas. Tell your husband what chores to do and when to do them, how he will spend time on his days off and what you expect in the bedroom. Some dominant wives expand the dominance in the bedroom to include submissive positions and things like bondage equipment, but this up to the comfort level of both parities.  SOURCE:  OurEveryDayLife.com -  Shara JJ Cooper

50% Divorce Rate In USA

For the last 10 years or more, the divorce rate in the United States has maintained a constant level of 50% and this includes the Southern Bible Belt, which some of us might find curiously interesting.

So...  what's causing all this divorce?

Well...  I could say it's the females in the workplace and then I would be equally justified in saying it's the males in the workplace.  And...  the sad truth of it all is that when males and females start working together there is a high degree of probability that they will start screwing each other figuratively, literally, and sexually.

It is human nature.

The two wealthiest males in the USA have either gotten a divorce or their divorce is pending and it is because these males screwed around with other females with whom they came into contact while at work.

BEZOS lost half his fortune in the divorce but has since gotten it all back...  nothing more than a down turn on Wall Street to him...  and now, Gates is on the chopping block because he could not keep his manhood in his pants.

OF course, in both cases, the female had to have agreed with everything or nothing would have happened...  although, I am sure sexual assault could have taken place...  but, when one is screwing a billionaire one does not concern one's self with sexual assault...  perhaps, a little blackmail might have been in order.

Why get married, if 50% of them end in divorce?

First, marriage allows sexual intercourse

Second, the female might be pregnant

Third, marriage provides financial security

Fourth, two people might believe they are in love

Fifth, it has been arranged by the parents

Sixth, it gets those involved out from under their parents control

Seventh, one's biological clock is ticking

Eighth, marriage looks better than single in the business world

Ninth, there are tax breaks for married couples

Tenth, insurance costs are less when married

Workplace Communications

Communication problems in the workplace can have a negative impact on morale, productivity and interdepartmental working relationships. When left unchecked, ongoing communication problems can potentially cut into profits, increase turnover and lead to mistakes that negatively impact the company’s public image. Recognizing and addressing common issues can smooth over problems before they get out of hand. Watch for common workplace communication problems and resolve them quickly.

Common Communication Problems

1. Failure to communicate fully
2. Assuming someone else has the ball
3. Failure to self edit
4. Being unprepared
5. Using the wrong communications tool
6. Saying too much

People in general make the assumption that communications is simple when in reality if you are not taught how to communicate properly, it is 100% certain that the communicator will be misunderstood...

Let me try to paint an example of what I am saying...

1.  Person A makes a comment to person B

2.  there is a 50/50 chance that communications are perfect

3.  Person B communicates to person C

4.  50% chance of understanding (B) times another 50% chance of understanding (C)

5.  the result is .50 X .50  =  .25

6.  or a 25% chance that person C understands what person A was trying to communicate

7.  now person C communicates to person D

8.  25% chance of understanding (C) times 50% chance of understanding (D)

9.  the result is .25 x .50  =  ,125

10.  or there is a 12.5% chance that person D understands what Person A was trying to communicate.

NOTE:  From the very beginning there is a problem with my communications example because everyone made the assumption that communicating was not a problem...  everyone knows how to talk.

If you are married, you also understand how difficult it is sometimes when talking to your spouse, as what you thought you said clearly was still misunderstood...  and, if the issue is pushed then a huge argument follows pissing off both spouses to the point that they go into separate room and stop communication altogether.

These actions are extremely detrimental to a marriage and they are devastating to a company.

When Does One Act or Not Act?

What possesses two people to marry?

• sex
• love
• money
• security
• friendship
• commonalities
• companionship

And...  when do those two people decide that their marriage is no long viable and it is time to divorce and go their separate ways?

Oftentimes, no action is taken by either spouse when one or both realize that their marriage is DEAD and whatever was there that brought them together is no longer present and continuing to remain in the marriage is hypocritical.

Why does this happen?

• money
• security
• promises
• society
• children
• convenience
• lesser of two evils

I remember growing up in a household where once I became a TEENAGER, I realized that there was NO LOVE present and/or exhibited between either of my parents...  and yet, I expected them to remain together...  because I just assumed that this is what married people do.