Perils of Marriage

 

Living together is not easy whether a couple is married or not.  It seems to be, my opinion, if you're married, because at best you split your assets 50/50 (providing there are no children), or you are in your 60s-70s-80s and it is not that easy living solo, especially if there are medical issues.

Therefore, couples stay together simply for the finances and companionship and the care that might needed to be given.

For instance, I am 78, my wife is 73, we are both in poor physical health...  I might be slightly worse because I am fighting two kinds of cancers...  and, we do not get along at all...  which I find strange because our commonalities is what brought us together in the first place.

It would appear that we lied about what we had in common because we could not be more opposite.

We don't trust each other; we don't respect each other; we don't love each other, although being together for over thirty years creates some kind of mutual caring...  We have just enough money (collectively) to take care of us until we're both 95 (assuming we live that long) and divorce would be financially disastrous for both of us.

SO...  we remain together...  we are married but it would not make any difference if we were not...  We lived together for five years before we agreed to marry a second time.

YET...

there are married couples with and without children who will divorce each year at the first sign of incompatibility.

WHY...

Is living with another person because of an initial love SO FRIGGING DIFFICULT???