Who's in Charge

 

When my wife and I were working (ten years ago), we put out paychecks into the same checking account and put our bank accounts in the same family bank account when we got married and have lived like that ever since.

My wife worked in banking, so she writes all the checks, pays all the bills, manages the flow of money in and out of the bank, and balances the check book.  She volunteered to do this.

When we go to buy a house or a car or take a vacation, she volunteers to do all the research however, she demands that I review her research and that we make all those decisions together.

She takes care of inside the house, I take care of outside the house, and whenever we go somewhere together, I drive the car.  I the trip is over four hours; she drives for an hour to give me a break.

When we retired, she said she was no longer cooking meals for us, that we would both cook meals for ourselves which we have done for the last ten years, except for Thanksgiving Dinner.

She buys all my clothes because she says that my color matches are all wrong.  I try on no clothes in the store.  We or she brings everything home and if it does not fit or look right, she returns it and gets a larger size or finds something else.

We do all grocery shopping together except in rare situations, when one of us is out and we need something and send out a text.

Some call this a FEMALE LED MARRIAGE, some may think that my wife is in charge, and I am the submissive in the relationship, but I do not feel like that, and she does not feel like she is in charge.  Our arrangement works for us and that is all that matters.