Power in Marriage

 

Very seldom in a marriage is the power EQUALLY DIVIDED between the male and the female, male and the male, or female and the female, even if both partners are alphas or if both partners are not alphas.

Couples can say that they want to divide the power equally but in reality, there is always one that dominates...  and I don't mean sexually or physically, although that does happen as well.

What I am talking about is where to go on vacation, or what kind of house to buy, or what kind of vehicle, or how should we invest our money.  There is always one who thinks their opinion is more valuable or more important than the other one.

This is also true if the couple agrees to swap opinions and decisions back and forth.  They will find some way to convince you that you made the decision last time and now it is their time.

However, in the traditional schools of marriage, the husband always made the decisions even if he was not the best person suited to make those decisions.

Another situation is where the wife is submissive in the bedroom, whereas in all other situations she wants to take charge thinking that she knows better.

While it might take time for couples to adjust, usually over time, the husband always gives in and let the wife make all the decision that they want to make.  It just makes for a happier marriage in the long run.